*SWC= strong willed child. That would be the eldest child in our family.
We had an interesting conversation today. It happened in the middle of telling Ethan a consequence for a poor choice. He informed me that the consequence would not work and that it would not help him to make better decisions later.
The most depressing revelation about the discussion? He’s absolutely right. Unless he decides that it’s worth it, he wont do it. As a parent, I need to figure out what will make it worth it to him. “Because I said so and I’m the parent” works for compliant children, but not for a SWC. I didn’t get it before I had one. It really irks me (and honestly, sometimes throws me into a rage) that my child questions and balks at discipline. He doesn’t feel bad or sorry that he got in trouble. He’s just mad. And what am I supposed to do when I take away the one thing that really matters to him and he decides he is just stubborn enough to dig in his heels anyway? I’m left with no leverage and he still isn’t obeying.